I feel you on the gym. I can't stand the toxic atmosphere of most gyms. But I ended up finding a small neighbourhood gym and it's a lot better - people feel more "normal" and less douchey and obnoxious lol. So if you can find something like that, it might be an option? Because as much as I don't like the atmosphere of gyms, the machines are soooo nice to work with!
I personally mix padel with yoga (I do vinyasa for stretching and flexibility, and 4beat or rocket for strength and cardio), gym once a week for machines, and I also walk a lot and do a small bit of running, though I don't think the last part will be helpful for you :)
And if you already do pilates, yoga may not be necessary - I've never done pilates, but from what I understand, they're fairly similar!
Who cares man, just put your headphones on, do your shit and leave. Even though you can do most exercises at home, having access to all the equipment a gym has is a huge benefit.
I think most people are the same way, hate others at the gym. Exception of course if you can only go during peak times, then screw that.
Girl I only have so many free hours to myself a day, and you best bet I'm gonna use those hours in the best, most positive ways I can. I don't wanna be in a space where I see people subtly bullying others, random dudes bothering girls who've already rejected them twice, and people being dicks about not putting things back the right way because they can't be arsed.
Vibes at my neighbourhood gym are *so much better* than at those commercial gyms. I don't really see people behaving like absolute pricks there.